There are so many counsellors and therapists practicing in so many modalities that it's easy to become overwhelmed when trying to find the right match for you. Research consistently shows, though, that regardless of modality or technique, what's important for a positive outcome in therapy is a good, safe relationship between you and the therapist, so it's important to listen to your gut.
At the same time, trusting a stranger with your problems and feelings isn't always easy. Many people struggle to relate to a therapist who adopts a “blank screen” persona; I bring to my clients a commitment to being a real, responsive and collaborative human being.
I’m an integrative relational therapist. In practice, integrative means that I draw on multiple models and techniques to tailor our work sensitively to you, your personality and your needs. It also means our work will focus on you as a whole person. We might bring mindful attention to your body and emotions in the present moment, not just your thoughts. We might invite parts of you to speak that haven’t had much chance to be heard. We might also explore your strengths and resources, and what motivates you, inspires you and brings you meaning and joy.
Relational means that my work is founded on the understanding that human beings are not designed to go it alone — we have evolved with deep needs for connection and belonging in order to survive and flourish. Our experiences in relationship with others shape and affect everything from how safe we feel in the world, to how we feel in our bodies and deal with stress, to how we make meaning of what happens to us and feel about our options for the future. Our work will likely consider important relationships in your past and present and how they shape your inner and outer experience.
It’s never too late for change and growth. Relational therapy offers a safe, supportive, boundaried relationship where we can explore what’s troubling you, how it fits into the story of your life and where change is possible in your here and now.